The era of technology has taken over.
And I’m fighting back.
Before I start this post, it needs an explanation, a disclaimer perhaps.
The TV is on in our house pretty much all day, and it’s rare that I don’t have a phone or ipad in my hand. Even at the dinner table. I know far, far too much about the residents of Adventure Bay (canine or otherwise), and can identify each of My Little Ponies by their cutie marks alone.
I basically suck at being with my children without technology.
But, the increasing anger of my 3.5 year old is concerning me. And my observations show that she gets the most angry when she, or I, are plugged in.
So we are going off grid. A bit. Just a tiny bit. In fact not off grid at all really. Just switching stuff off for a bit.
We’ve always done ‘stuff’ as well as watch TV, but it’s usually been on in the background. This week it hasn’t.
In the middle of the day my phone is put in another room and the TV is turned off and I engage Mummy mode. Full mummy mode. I mean obviously, I’m always a Mummy, but I’m usually a wife, teacher, friend, person in my own right at the same time.
It’s about being in the moment. Whatever I’m doing, I’m going to give it my full attention. Be that playing a game with the big one, singing songs with the little one or having a conversation with my husband. I’m going to be in that moment, and only in that moment.
It’s early days, the moments are short. But they are increasing.
And, do you know what? It’s bloody hard work! But do you know what else? I’m enjoying it. More importantly, so are my children. Tensions with my eldest are lessening. I’m shouting less. So is she.
“Mummy, it’s been a lovely day. Thank you”
So, the experiment continues. Can we get our TV viewing down to once or twice a week? Probably not. I need it. Paw Patrol allows me to wash up and Ben and Holly provide a chance to make dinner. But can we stop watching TV when we could be doing other things together? I hope so.